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Please name a few of them. specifically ones that will result in a good situation for all involved. I'm actually interested and not being obtuse here.
by AstralStorm 9y ago
Please name a few of them. specifically ones that will result in a good situation for all involved.
I'm actually interested and not being obtuse here.
- DoreenMichele 9y agoYou decline to fit the label. You decline to accuse the labeler. You treat it as a communication problem. You starve the drama of attention. You prove them wrong by failing to be guilty of the accusation. You assume the first several incidents are unfortunate happenstance.
- diyseguy 9y ago"Starve the drama of attention". Love it.
- psyc 9y agoDoreenMichele already indicated what she could have done, and what she shouldn't have. She did not take the high road. She demonstrated that she had a chip on her shoulder and chose to express that in her behavior. I'd have raised the issue with the manager in a non-confrontational, constructive way. If that proved impossible or ineffective, I'd have accepted it or quit. Even the author freely admits nothing good came of her approach, but she failed to realize that put her in the wrong, because she had a superiority complex.
- diyseguy 9y agoIt's all about intention. Her intention was to set up and take down others. Her intention was to hurt, not heal. When it gets to this point, you're not a team player anymore. You are a saboteur. I've seen people get like this when the stress is way too high (which is common in the tech field). Arguably, there is a time to not forgive, e.g. 'Three Billboards'. But that level of line in the sand stuff should only be used rarely, not on a regular basis.