Yeah, the best thing to do when you have a problem with a particular person is take time to calm down, and then: Figure out what your problem is. Are they doin

Yeah, the best thing to do when you have a problem with a particular person is take time to calm down, and then: Figure out what your problem is. Are they doing something you don't like? Are they not doing something and you really think they should? Why don't you like that? Why does it make you feel that way? Figure out what needs to change so #1 doesn't affect you. Are you upset because you're doing a bunch of menial work with no end in sight? Ask the team to pitch in more. Is your coworker not writing enough documentation when they submit pull requests? Tell them that, and tell them that you're frustrated by it if you need to. Talk to the people you are having trouble with. Tell them what your problem is, why it's a problem, and be really clear that you own your emotional response but that you're hoping they can change the things that are upsetting you. Be willing to negotiate. Be open to alternative solutions. Take ownership of things that you have agreed to do, and don't be afraid to remind others to take ownership of the things they've agreed to do. Also, don't be afraid to leave a place where people aren't paying attention to you and basically don't care about you. There are plenty of other companies in the world. They don't all pay the same, but it's possible to value more than just money. Sometimes the best way to signal that conditions are bad is to leave.