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That doesn't actually seem that different than the "put a hand on the arm while talking" technique that a lot of people use to try to inspire confidence from ot
by wccrawford 9y ago
That doesn't actually seem that different than the "put a hand on the arm while talking" technique that a lot of people use to try to inspire confidence from others.
Personally, when someone touches me like that, I realize I'm being manipulated and instantly like them less.
But a lot of people respond strongly and warmly to touch, even from strangers.
I also dislike it when strangers use my name before I've given it to them, and really, really dislike it when a stranger decides to use a short form of my name instead of the full version that I gave them. It stems from the same distrust of people trying to gain my confidence without merit.
I did not downvote you, and disagree with those who did.
- louprado 9y agoIs that to say you don't like handshakes either ? I am genuinely curious as I currently do a slight bow and look down to preempt a handshake from occurring which is just exacerbating the crisis of touch issue. The shoulder shake was in lieu of a hand shake and it hopefully is reciprocated. People tend to be judged, often unfairly, by the quality of their handshake. And there are definitely people who use a firm and prolonged handshake as an opportunity to express dominance.
- wccrawford 9y agoHandshakes are for respect. People I've just met only get that respect if they're my new boss or something. If they force me into a handshake as a way of gaining my trust, then they've actually lost my respect instead of gained it. And yes, hand-squeezers are lame.