This may sound weird: I love community. It's incredibly important to me! I value community that is willing to include me. I do not value community that rejects

This may sound weird: I love community. It's incredibly important to me! I value community that is willing to include me. I do not value community that rejects me, especially after I make sincere efforts. Someone else's insular community is irrelevant to my decision-making processes. Generally, I'm content to live and let live, as much as it irks to be excluded because I lack some shibboleth. I know they're not going to start caring about me because I stand with them in solidarity, so I spare myself the effort. This changes when insular communities seek to leverage their position against my interests and those of my community. I understand where you're coming from. You see a comment about social ties, community, and cohesion and someone else accusing them of trying to create an aristocracy. It looks spurious, like this joker refuses to care, think, or understand why someone might care about such things. I see someone looking to legitimize a system of exclusion of my community on supposedly progressive grounds. With the idea being that they can protect their privilege - without ever using the p-word - by encouraging exclusion. I find it hypocritical and distasteful. I understand why they want to do it. I do. I understand their pain, their sense of loss, their fears for the future. I simply do not agree with what they would do about these.