Yes, this sounds like me. It's very hard. I spent a day worrying that my lead was going to scold me about something minor, and he never mentioned it. The only w

Yes, this sounds like me. It's very hard. I spent a day worrying that my lead was going to scold me about something minor, and he never mentioned it. The only way I stopped worrying was to repeat "stop caring. don't care." to myself. When someone does inevitably become confrontational about something, I am careful to subdue my ego as much as possible. Make a quick, succinct apology, and immediately move on to solutions. Never belabor anything. If things get bad enough, I'll remove myself for a while and go do something else until my head is clear.