I find you will have better results thinking about what has MADE you the way that you are, rather than trying to FIND what you are. Learning about how my child

I find you will have better results thinking about what has MADE you the way that you are, rather than trying to FIND what you are. Learning about how my childhood has affected my adult psyche has been more revealing than trying to find some static inner "me." I think your "you" is nebulous and ever changing. I would go as far as to say relative and situational, even. But you can learn about your patterns of thought by reverse engineering them, both in real-time and historically. If you do this enough you will find a pattern that you can define as yourself. Then it turns into a game of playing to that pattern's strengths and stress-testing it for growth.