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mfoy_ 9y ago
There's an important distinction between being lonely and being a loner. Key point: A loner wouldn't get lonely, they'd be perfectly content to be alone.
- projektir 9y ago
  The difference can be hard to tell, though - the loner might have internalized the message that they should feel lonely.
  - vezycash 9y ago
    It's more about one's natural base or comfort level. Person A, for whatever reason can't sit still and won't feel right unless they spend most of their time with other people. Person Z, for whatever reason is drained through interacting with others. Example: I can't read unless it's quiet or a familiar music is playing. People moving about also distracts me. On the other hand, I know a few people who'll fall asleep reading in a library but not in a noisy area. Jazz, classical and soul music causes itching sensations in these persons. Heck, the article could talk about Jazz lovers and pass the same message.
    - projektir 9y ago
      I can't really make sense of your post, to be quite honest. > It's more about one's natural base or comfort level. I mean, no, I don't really agree. Negative feelings about oneself are extremely dependent on your society, I would say more so than your personal preferences (i.e., behaving per your personal preferences when it generates negative social attention is MORE damaging than behaving per social preferences when it generates negative effects due to ignoring personal preferences). Most people can adapt. Personal baselines basically only kick in at far extremes and most people are neither. What introverts generally hit isn't that, it's that introverts may be very different from the rest of the folk (since they're the non-default) and stand out as a sore thumb, anyway. > Heck, the article could talk about Jazz lovers and pass the same message. Again, what? Jazz is not a universal trait (introversion/extroversion affects everyone). Being super into Jazz or super not into Jazz is not really going to modify your life much. How is this similar at all?

There's an important distinction between being lonely and being a loner. Key point: A loner wouldn't get lonely, they'd be perfectly content to be alone.

projektir 9y ago
The difference can be hard to tell, though - the loner might have internalized the message that they should feel lonely.
- vezycash 9y ago
  It's more about one's natural base or comfort level. Person A, for whatever reason can't sit still and won't feel right unless they spend most of their time with other people. Person Z, for whatever reason is drained through interacting with others. Example: I can't read unless it's quiet or a familiar music is playing. People moving about also distracts me. On the other hand, I know a few people who'll fall asleep reading in a library but not in a noisy area. Jazz, classical and soul music causes itching sensations in these persons. Heck, the article could talk about Jazz lovers and pass the same message.
  - projektir 9y ago
    I can't really make sense of your post, to be quite honest. > It's more about one's natural base or comfort level. I mean, no, I don't really agree. Negative feelings about oneself are extremely dependent on your society, I would say more so than your personal preferences (i.e., behaving per your personal preferences when it generates negative social attention is MORE damaging than behaving per social preferences when it generates negative effects due to ignoring personal preferences). Most people can adapt. Personal baselines basically only kick in at far extremes and most people are neither. What introverts generally hit isn't that, it's that introverts may be very different from the rest of the folk (since they're the non-default) and stand out as a sore thumb, anyway. > Heck, the article could talk about Jazz lovers and pass the same message. Again, what? Jazz is not a universal trait (introversion/extroversion affects everyone). Being super into Jazz or super not into Jazz is not really going to modify your life much. How is this similar at all?