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>The argument isn't a binary choice between trusting the mother or not, it's to raise the bar for evidence significantly - which is what I take don't automatica
by mmjaa 9y ago
>The argument isn't a binary choice between trusting the mother or not, it's to raise the bar for evidence significantly - which is what I take don't automatically discount the mother" to mean.
We could start by adding Fathers back into the equation, and not automatically assuming that a child is in danger if they're not in their Mothers' sphere.
I think this is the worst thing that governments have done for families: the idea that a single-parent (Primarily the Mother) family is anything less than ideal for the children needs to attain mainstream acceptance. Dads need to stay, and Mothers need to move over and make way for it.
- minikites 9y agoThis is up to the Fathers to step in: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115.html https://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-my... >According to the report, a married father spends on average 6.5 hours a week taking part in primary child care activities with his children. The married mother spends on average 12.9 hours. Since two-income households are now the norm, not the exception, the above information indicates that not only are mothers working, but they are also doing twice as much child care as fathers.
- mmjaa 9y agoSociety has to make it okay for Fathers to play this role. Right now, it is "expected" that Mothers are the primary caregivers - this is entirely cultural, and must change. Fathers stepping in is one way it'll change. Mothers stepping out is another. To find the balance we have to make room for it.
- minikites 9y agoWhy do Mothers need to step out? Do you think they're refusing requests from Fathers about helping out with care-giving?
- mmjaa 9y agoI think there is definitely a proclivity towards staying at home, as a cultural norm, while sending ones partner off to work - and I don't think this is really balanced, no. The idea that there is one parent that is more 'ideal at the home' than the other is what needs to change.
- rvo 9y agoIt is certainly not "entirely cultural". We are still part of the animal kingdom. There is actual biology and evolution at play. Ignoring that is pseudoscience.
- nsxwolf 9y agoHours of daily parental exposure is not how anyone assigns "broken family" status. Psychologically it's about where both parents sleep at night.