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This has unfortunately been my experience with not just meetups, but other things where common wisdom says you can make friends, like volunteering. I volunteer
by mortenjorck 9y ago
This has unfortunately been my experience with not just meetups, but other things where common wisdom says you can make friends, like volunteering. I volunteer every few weeks at a soup kitchen, but despite having done it for a couple of years, none of my fellow volunteers have become more than casual acquaintances.
- CogitoCogito 9y agoIn my experience, making friends at these sorts of things requires active work. It might be active work by someone else, but usually you're not that lucky. You usually need to really ask others if they'd like to meetup yourself. Also you need to be very prepared for them not being interested (like say dating) and be ready to hop to other groups/circles if necessary. (Or even better, just fan out and meet many groups simultaneously and only start going regularly if you meet people you like.) I'm not saying that you're _not_ doing it or that this is easy (socially, financially, temporally, etc.), but I do think it _is_ easy to just pass through life as a bit of an outside observer, be it at work, volunteering, or basically any other social engagement. (I guess this is what the main article is all about...)