My mother is (thankfully) still alive, so I hope I can take the naive advice I'm going to give you: you could try to become that hub. I know when my brothers i

My mother is (thankfully) still alive, so I hope I can take the naive advice I'm going to give you: you could try to become that hub. I know when my brothers initiate something (like a surprise birthday party for Mom), we're all excited to jump on board.