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I think your first course of action is improving your attitude. You start out with a cry for help about your problems, depression, and loneliness. People respon

I think your first course of action is improving your attitude. You start out with a cry for help about your problems, depression, and loneliness. People respond, offering help, and you have a negative response to it. It may not seem like much, but people are more willing to help you, if you're willing to be helped. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, be positive, and take advantage of what others are offering.

hestipod 9y ago
You misunderstand me, I disagree, and I don't know how to change that. I have heard the "people are willing to help IF you do X,Y,Z" thing so often and have seen that even when I change and extend myself and expend great and limited energy to their requirements it doesn't work like you imagine and I find it really simplifies the complex set of issues I deal with and is victim blaming in the end. Sorry if I have offended you...I am explaining my position not trying to fight. I believe your intent is good and I do appreciate that intent. I just hope you can accept and believe me when I say I have "been there/done that" and would never choose to be defiant or screw my own life out of pride or attitude.
- overcast 9y ago
  Be more positive, go outside your limited comfort zone. Even if you think you have zero interest in it, try it anyhow. What's the worst that can happen? You meet someone new, and waste a couple hours of your life? I'm not totally familiar with your disabilities, but look at Stephen Hawking, Christopher Reeves. I just saw a dude with no legs doing things on a skateboard, that 15 year old me would have dreamed of doing. You're not offending me, stop apologizing for everything. Get out , and do something.
nylonstrung 9y ago
We have an article about how these issues are structural and entrenched issues at the societal level and people offered superficial self-improvement advice to someone whose issues appear to be largely from profound health problems, which misses the point entirely.
- overcast 9y ago
  I don't think offering friendship, and someone to talk to is superficial at all. If this is all missing the point, then the parent shouldn't be telling us all this on a public forum.

hestipod 9y ago

You misunderstand me, I disagree, and I don't know how to change that. I have heard the "people are willing to help IF you do X,Y,Z" thing so often and have seen that even when I change and extend myself and expend great and limited energy to their requirements it doesn't work like you imagine and I find it really simplifies the complex set of issues I deal with and is victim blaming in the end. Sorry if I have offended you...I am explaining my position not trying to fight. I believe your intent is good and I do appreciate that intent. I just hope you can accept and believe me when I say I have "been there/done that" and would never choose to be defiant or screw my own life out of pride or attitude.

overcast 9y ago
Be more positive, go outside your limited comfort zone. Even if you think you have zero interest in it, try it anyhow. What's the worst that can happen? You meet someone new, and waste a couple hours of your life? I'm not totally familiar with your disabilities, but look at Stephen Hawking, Christopher Reeves. I just saw a dude with no legs doing things on a skateboard, that 15 year old me would have dreamed of doing. You're not offending me, stop apologizing for everything. Get out , and do something.

nylonstrung 9y ago

We have an article about how these issues are structural and entrenched issues at the societal level and people offered superficial self-improvement advice to someone whose issues appear to be largely from profound health problems, which misses the point entirely.

overcast 9y ago
I don't think offering friendship, and someone to talk to is superficial at all. If this is all missing the point, then the parent shouldn't be telling us all this on a public forum.