It took quite a lot of sessions before he started understanding what to do; at first, he really preferred to push it from behind rather than sit in it. So I jus

It took quite a lot of sessions before he started understanding what to do; at first, he really preferred to push it from behind rather than sit in it. So I just kind of let him do that for several sessions and gently coaxed him into the car for a minute or two at a time. I felt like if I got frustrated he would get frustrated, and he would just reject the car altogether, so I basically let him do whatever he wanted with it at first. Once he was sitting in there and messing with the controls, I would run and dance around in front of the car to get him to chase me, which he thought was hilarious. As soon as he was able to go where he wanted and clearly enjoyed it, I thought he would be ready to listen to me tell him what to do, so we would take longer trips with a destination in mind, to the playground or to the drum circle. I would verbally tell him what to do (stop, go, turn left, turn right, reverse, forward, etc), and if he doesn't do it within a couple of seconds, I stop the car with the remote start and hunker down and explain to him what I wanted him to do and show him on the controls. If he continues to not listen to my instructions we take a few minutes time out out of the car and sit on a bench or run around or whatever. Anyways, keep trying! it's a lot of work but so much fun.