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Research is pretty conclusive that to have tight friendships you need vulnerability to some degree I have to admit I don't quite understand this sentence, espe

Research is pretty conclusive that to have tight friendships you need vulnerability to some degree I have to admit I don't quite understand this sentence, especially how research might define a "tight friendship" and "vulnerability". Can you provide some information about said research? This topic interests me.

tabeth 9y ago
Generally things like "self disclosure", "trust" and "commitment" are things that are highly correlated with strong friendship quality. I loosely put all of those under the umbrella of vulnerability as self disclosure and trust in particular generally mean you allow someone to use the information given for bad reasons potentially. Here's a good starting point. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/146144804044331 http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/146144804044331
kerkeslager 9y ago
I neither agree nor disagree with the statement that the research is conclusive, but Brené Brown[1] seems to have become the public face of research on vulnerability. Her research seems to be mostly qualitative rather than quantitative. [1] https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
wccrawford 9y ago
I don't think you can have a really, really tight bond with someone if you never give them a chance to hurt you. If you don't share information about yourself that they could use to hurt you, then you haven't actually trusted them, and the bond you feel isn't as strong as it could be.
- cpsempek 9y ago
  Yes, this makes sense as a hypothesis, it certainly feels right, but the parent comment was referring to research establishing a relationship between tight friendship and vulnerability. How are these things defined in such research, measured, etc.? That is what I am unable to understand.

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Research is pretty conclusive that to have tight friendships you need vulnerability to some degree I have to admit I don't quite understand this sentence, espe

by cpsempek 9y ago

tabeth 9y ago
Generally things like "self disclosure", "trust" and "commitment" are things that are highly correlated with strong friendship quality. I loosely put all of those under the umbrella of vulnerability as self disclosure and trust in particular generally mean you allow someone to use the information given for bad reasons potentially. Here's a good starting point. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/146144804044331 http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/146144804044331
kerkeslager 9y ago
I neither agree nor disagree with the statement that the research is conclusive, but Brené Brown[1] seems to have become the public face of research on vulnerability. Her research seems to be mostly qualitative rather than quantitative. [1] https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
wccrawford 9y ago
I don't think you can have a really, really tight bond with someone if you never give them a chance to hurt you. If you don't share information about yourself that they could use to hurt you, then you haven't actually trusted them, and the bond you feel isn't as strong as it could be.
- cpsempek 9y ago
  Yes, this makes sense as a hypothesis, it certainly feels right, but the parent comment was referring to research establishing a relationship between tight friendship and vulnerability. How are these things defined in such research, measured, etc.? That is what I am unable to understand.