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Want My Advice? Um, Not Really

12 points by grellas 16y ago

dingle_thunk 16y ago
While the points made are valid, I think this article misses out on the broader contextual change that has happened. It's not just kids looking through YouTube for how-to videos; my parents and my grandparents use it too. The availability of information has changed many aspects of many types of relationships, and this particular observation is really part of a much broader trend which has by no means ended. As technology is evolving, responding, and spreading; I'm enjoying watching the internet become increasingly more pervasive and predictive about the sort of information all people need. The internet is - without a doubt - the world's largest and greatest experiment.
BerislavLopac 16y ago
One important point here is that it isn't only the differences in the value sets between older and younger generations -- it's also the fact that people when giving advice do it from their own point of view, instead of trying to put themselves in the advisee's shoes. And this goes for any age or culture -- when elder people give an advice to buy a house, they use their own metric and don't take into consideration what might be important to the younger guy.
philk 16y ago
I think this misses the broader point that unasked for advice is usually unwelcome anyway, regardless of the age of the adviser.
aufreak3 16y ago
If you want good advice from the previous generation, get it for general direction as opposed to something specific like "I want to hold my wedding at the south pole". Good mentors and teachers know the inner scenery rather well and can help greatly with that. They may not be very familiar with the outer scenery that we encounter daily, so that is what probably makes the specific stuff not so good.
nhebb 16y ago
Every generation seems to rehash this topic in some form or another. Every young generation thinks they're different from the previous one, and every older generation shakes their heads and says "kids these days...". My generation was labeled Gen X and described in ways that didn't fit anyone I knew. So when I see these stories my only reaction is, "huh, a writer needed to meet a deadline."

12 points by grellas 16y ago

While the points made are valid, I think this article misses out on the broader contextual change that has happened. It's not just kids looking through YouTube for how-to videos; my parents and my grandparents use it too. The availability of information has changed many aspects of many types of relationships, and this particular observation is really part of a much broader trend which has by no means ended. As technology is evolving, responding, and spreading; I'm enjoying watching the internet become increasingly more pervasive and predictive about the sort of information all people need. The internet is - without a doubt - the world's largest and greatest experiment.

BerislavLopac 16y ago

One important point here is that it isn't only the differences in the value sets between older and younger generations -- it's also the fact that people when giving advice do it from their own point of view, instead of trying to put themselves in the advisee's shoes. And this goes for any age or culture -- when elder people give an advice to buy a house, they use their own metric and don't take into consideration what might be important to the younger guy.

philk 16y ago

I think this misses the broader point that unasked for advice is usually unwelcome anyway, regardless of the age of the adviser.

aufreak3 16y ago

If you want good advice from the previous generation, get it for general direction as opposed to something specific like "I want to hold my wedding at the south pole". Good mentors and teachers know the inner scenery rather well and can help greatly with that. They may not be very familiar with the outer scenery that we encounter daily, so that is what probably makes the specific stuff not so good.

nhebb 16y ago

Every generation seems to rehash this topic in some form or another. Every young generation thinks they're different from the previous one, and every older generation shakes their heads and says "kids these days...". My generation was labeled Gen X and described in ways that didn't fit anyone I knew. So when I see these stories my only reaction is, "huh, a writer needed to meet a deadline."