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Practice gratitude for the things that are going right in your life. Try and be kind to yourself. People you perceive as “successful” may themselves be facing
by medhir 9y ago
Practice gratitude for the things that are going right in your life. Try and be kind to yourself.
People you perceive as “successful” may themselves be facing internal hardships. Placing self-worth in externally-controlled goals sets you up to feel bad about your place in life.
I used to beat myself up about my current progress and constantly comparing myself to others. Once I stopped doing that and instead focused on making small incremental goals, I started to feel much happier. It seems counterintuitive, but once I stopped focusing on “success”, I became much more successful in what I actually wanted to accomplish.
- paulkoer 9y agoI second this. I used to think practicing gratitude was stupid, or at least not really worth my time. I have recently picked up stoicism and one key techniques seems to be "practicing negative visualization" - basically imagining how much worse of you could be. I found that once I really think through all the hardships that I could find myself in I appreciate my current situation much more and feel much happier. Curiously, I think I also get more done now because I feel better, am in a better mood and spend less time anguishing about all the things which are not perfect or could somehow be better. It has also made me aware that many people do find themselves in various hardships and my appreciation for my situation has really grown again through this. Stop being so hard on yourself and cut yourself some slack - if you're the perfectionist type (like me) it does a lot more harm than good!