"Blind" second opinions. Go to another doctor - perhaps even at a different pay-grade - and see if she recommends the same treatment without you indicating to h

"Blind" second opinions. Go to another doctor - perhaps even at a different pay-grade - and see if she recommends the same treatment without you indicating to her anything about what the other doctor(s) said. This is slightly easier for surgeries and anything non-acute where you have at least a month or two to make a decision.