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A perfect example of someone trying to do what they think is right, making a simple mistake, and the internet crucifying them without any chance for rehab or ap
by wccrawford 9y ago
A perfect example of someone trying to do what they think is right, making a simple mistake, and the internet crucifying them without any chance for rehab or apology. Just a mob that demands punishment, not justice.
This has been a growing trend. If anyone does something wrong, banish them from the Earth. Make them unhireable, boycott their product.
In reality, as her post notes, compassion is a lot more effective. Why would anyone change if there's no future benefit to that change? If you're marked for life and can never shake off that mistake, why try?
I've yet to meet the person that didn't believe something wrongly. Racist, sexist, age-ist and many more, there are tons of ways to think about other people as a group and get it wrong.
Most people can change. They can realize that racism isn't correct and work to be better people, and to treat others better.
But if every attempt to be better is met with as much vitriol as not-changing, there's not only no reason to change, but there's plenty of reason to believe your original thinking was correct.
Sadly, I don't really see a solution for this. The people who throw stones aren't reasonable people. You can't talk to them and show them that they are handling things wrong. If you're in the out-group, they'll simply say you can't possibly understand them and ignore you. If you're in the in-group, they'll say you are a traitor to their kind, and ignore you.
The only thing you can do to them is what they do to others: Throw stones until they stop their behavior. But if you were that kind of person in the first place, you'd have just joined them.
It's impossible.
- danso 9y agoWhat in your opinion is the "simple mistake" that she made?
- wccrawford 9y agoFrom the article: >There was a hashtag, I don’t remember if it was trending or just in my timeline, called #whitegirlsaremagic. I clicked on it, and found it was racist and sexist dross. It was being promulgated in opposition to another hashtag, #blackgirlsaremagic. I clicked on that, and found a few model shots and borderline soft-core porn of black women. Armed with this impression, I set off to tweet in righteous anger about how much I disliked women being reduced to sex objects regardless of race. I was not just wrong in this moment, I was incoherently wrong. I had made my little mental model of what #blackgirlsaremagic was, and I had no clue that I had no clue what I was talking about. My 60-second impression of #whitegirlsaremagic was dead-on, but #blackgirlsaremagic didn’t fit in the last few tweets my browser had loaded. Her mistake was that she didn't understand a hashtag before she railed against it. It turns out that she railed against someone misusing the hashtag, but turned her anger to everyone using the hashtag. Thanks to this mistake, and the internet's idiotic idea that you can't be friends with someone without subscribing to all their beliefs, she was fired. No amount of apologizing for a mistake made in good faith was enough. Or, if you're a pessimist, her mistake was bothering to try to help people.