Interesting read, particularly being someone who takes lots of baths when alone. The difference between even two similar activities: shower (dance hot/cold) an

Interesting read, particularly being someone who takes lots of baths when alone. The difference between even two similar activities: shower (dance hot/cold) and bath (ahh) is profound. Lots of subtleties though too: primarily, perception. Ex1: My mother is a person who always hugs on meeting. Early life, good. Lots of physical affection. Later life, mixed. As [yes, hug] is at best normal, or duty, while [no hug] only produces cold. Normal is set high so all is down. Yet friends with families that shun physical affection would probably report mother as "very warm." Ex2: Converse, had friend I hadn't seen in years basically insist on hug "none of that handshake shit." Rest of visit was decidedly warm. (Helped he kept house at 80+ ... 'or did he?') Other is subconscious for examples like "think or say warm.". Like the Buddha example of 'monkey with a red hat'. " Have it clearly pictured? Now try not think of the monkey." Having been freezing to death many times (last was cave in Himalayas), thinking warm often produces reverse effect. I want be warm, I'm thinking "warm," but subconscious focus is "sooo cold. !cold." Be interesting to see if geographic effects have large play on ideas like family size or number of kids. "Want to stay married? Move to the South.". Could be iterative too. Trend is yes, feedback develops in resistance, but social institutions have also now formed that reinforce. Perception is wild.