Don't let yourself confined by what's "supposed to be". Trust your emotional state derive from what's good or bad from first principles (i.e. from experience).

Don't let yourself confined by what's "supposed to be". Trust your emotional state derive from what's good or bad from first principles (i.e. from experience). That said - it's good to do an exercise and imagine it's 10 years later, you've created a company startup for the sole purpose of making one billion dollars, think about what you can do with the one billion dollars, what opportunities you've sacrificed, what you've risked. How do you feel about it? Was it worth it? Would you do it again? The answer might be different for everyone. You can repeat for any other number of ambitious goals - getting married to a very good person; spending two decades raising children; moving to a new country; or even getting divorced; travelling around the world; becoming the best at an activity; become world famous for something, etc. For any one goal - think, what kind of person tend to achieve that goal easily, then the price of achieving that goal is to become that kind of person. Do you still want to achieve goal? If I didn't want to become the kind of person who'd marry my partner, it means to me I didn't actually want to marry her to begin with. Personally, to achieve X, is equivalent to, to become the person who achieves X easily. It helps me re-focus on what actions to take.