That's why when you argue with someone about one of these topics and you try to prove a certain point that does not fit ther line of thinking, you are effective

That's why when you argue with someone about one of these topics and you try to prove a certain point that does not fit ther line of thinking, you are effectively thwarting their identity. In their exes you make them less of a person. You take away a part of their identity. Nobody wants that.