I lost a good chunk of my friends when I had kids, they just stopped talking to me or stopped inviting me to things because they figured, I'm a family man now.

I lost a good chunk of my friends when I had kids, they just stopped talking to me or stopped inviting me to things because they figured, I'm a family man now. That's true to an extent, but I'm not a family man when I'm at work, I'm not in Dad mode when I hang out. I since made new friends, some married, some not, some with kids, some not. Various ages and career ranges. They also got married, and fell into that spouse politics trap (if our wife or significant other don't like each other or click), we can't hang out, ever. I most of my friends I don't even try to make our spouses meet, except through happenstance, and even then, it doesn't matter since 95% of the time we're doing something, its out with friends, and we only have a few friends where we'll do something with their spouse. Some tried to get in contact when they had kids but quite frankly, I've moved on.