Hmm... I would like to put across a slightly different perspective: First, I am a guy, I admire people of all races, sexes, abilities, depending on what abili

Hmm... I would like to put across a slightly different perspective: First, I am a guy, I admire people of all races, sexes, abilities, depending on what abilities they show and what achievements they had, that I admire in people There are quite a few women in my life whom I admire: 1) my mom - she keeps learning new things and is ready to remold her beliefs even when she 60 2) my sister - I am not close to her, but find her inspiring in what she has achieved, used that inspiration in getting my own life on track 3) a colleague - she is super efficient, super smart, extremely capable, would put many men to shame 4) a few seniors in the company I work in who have reached very high positions, some very fast, found their advice and perspectives highly wise. There is a common pattern among all the women that I admire, they are often simple (and quite often elegant) in how they look and dress, indicating they don't spend as much time on vanity as the average woman. --------------- Now consider this: two people, forget about their sex: Person 1 spends more time on activities that help her/him gather information in a field of knowledge(field 1), whether it be through first hand experience, reading books in that field, talking to peers and experts in that field. because of this she/he will have more information, so when given a task in that field, can try/perform a task with more confidence than one with lesser information or experience in that field. because she/he will have more confidence about that field, she/he will take up more tasks in the field, continuing a cycle of knowledge accumulation, increase in confidence and taking up tasks. Now what would be the state of a person 2 who doesn't spend as much time on field 1 and spends time on other fields, be it beauty, sports, parties, gossip, etc? They will have more confidence in dealing with these other fields than field 1, because that's where they have more knowledge and that will likely continue the cycle of knowledge accumulation, increase in confidence and taking up tasks in that field. Now its a matter of which field pays more or has opportunities for self-sustainability, not that beauty and social skills have no value, they can even be critical sometimes. But then, everything is relative. ---------------- Of course, we have to keep in mind that women are under the burden of all our collective expectation, that they look good and that they are supposed to look good, from their mothers, sisters, friends, boy friends, husbands. So, please don't consider this as a judgment of women, its just an observation that is applicable, between men, women or between men and women.,