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It feels like you're ignoring the biological realities behind some mental health conditions. In this case, ADHD. You can't just dismiss deficits in executive fu

It feels like you're ignoring the biological realities behind some mental health conditions. In this case, ADHD. You can't just dismiss deficits in executive function as "not caring". This lecture is a great one on the subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmV8HQUuPEk&t=13s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmV8HQUuPEk&t=13s Or less specifically you can read: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder#Executive_function_and_motivation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention_deficit_hyperactivit... The reality is that the circuits in the brain that manage things like impulse control and attention don't work as well in some people. One of the primary treatments for ADHD is stimulant medications... and yes, as a coping strategy, getting panicked to the point of adrenaline spiking. Both of them activate norepinephrine. But it has limits. I cannot be a panic about leaving for work every morning, or every time I meet with friends. Medication helps tremendously; planning things in the morning before the medication has kicked in leads to problems. When I have worked at a job that requires me to be in at 9:30AM every morning, the result was a ton of stress and constant friction. The solution is to schedule that meeting some other time; when I've worked at places that didn't have that requirement everybody has been happier. I can assure you that I never say to myself, what's more important: being at this meeting on time or spending 10 minutes searching for my phone? Or responding to this reddit comment? My understanding of time is not nearly good enough to make those kind of choices. Watch the video I linked; it's not intention that is the problem. Knowing the current time is not the problem, but being reasonable about how long things will take is extremely difficult. A lot of my life is organized around the knowledge that I am this way. I simply can't have friends who are going to think I don't care about them every time I'm 15 minutes late. For some people, that might be the case, but it's not for me. FWIW, my BMI is 21; appetite was never a problem for me. But I know a thing or two about excuses and getting out of my comfort zone; I'm trans.

BrandoElFollito 9y ago
If you read my other comments you will notice that I do not ignore the real problem. You seem to be in the minority who actually has a medical condition and being late is probably one of the many impacts and maybe not the worst. I am arguing with all the special flowers who "just cannot be in time", because this is fashionable, a mark of superiority or basic assholness.
- JimboOmega 9y ago
  It's quite possibly the worst. It has burned me plenty of times, and almost burned me badly a lot more. There were numerous classes and tests I should have failed because of my tardiness that I was able to talk my way out of, etc. A lot of times I can "smart" my way out of the worst problems. For instance I missed a flight that was taking me to a cruise the next morning. The airport staff were unhelpful; there weren't really any more flights that night. But I figured out on my phone that I could switch both source and destination airports and make a new flight. So for the "small" price of a $350 last minute ticket and $60 cab ride, I "solved" my problem. I literally booked the flight on my phone while in the cab between the airports. A large price to pay for being 15 minutes late, but I saved myself from missing the entire cruise at a cost of thousands.
  - romwell 9y ago
    Hey, good news, you're not alone. This might help: https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/07/why-im-always-late.html https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/07/why-im-always-late.html I really wish more people understood that being late for people like you (and me, and the blog author) isn't the same as it is for them, and can't be fixed simply. I need a support group, dammit!

BrandoElFollito 9y ago

If you read my other comments you will notice that I do not ignore the real problem. You seem to be in the minority who actually has a medical condition and being late is probably one of the many impacts and maybe not the worst. I am arguing with all the special flowers who "just cannot be in time", because this is fashionable, a mark of superiority or basic assholness.

JimboOmega 9y ago
It's quite possibly the worst. It has burned me plenty of times, and almost burned me badly a lot more. There were numerous classes and tests I should have failed because of my tardiness that I was able to talk my way out of, etc. A lot of times I can "smart" my way out of the worst problems. For instance I missed a flight that was taking me to a cruise the next morning. The airport staff were unhelpful; there weren't really any more flights that night. But I figured out on my phone that I could switch both source and destination airports and make a new flight. So for the "small" price of a $350 last minute ticket and $60 cab ride, I "solved" my problem. I literally booked the flight on my phone while in the cab between the airports. A large price to pay for being 15 minutes late, but I saved myself from missing the entire cruise at a cost of thousands.
- romwell 9y ago
  Hey, good news, you're not alone. This might help: https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/07/why-im-always-late.html https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/07/why-im-always-late.html I really wish more people understood that being late for people like you (and me, and the blog author) isn't the same as it is for them, and can't be fixed simply. I need a support group, dammit!