I'm in the same boat as you so pardon me for not giving a sugar-coated response(since I am simultaneously criticizing myself). Rude? What was your motive for b

I'm in the same boat as you so pardon me for not giving a sugar-coated response(since I am simultaneously criticizing myself). Rude? What was your motive for behaving a certain way? If that motive did not include arrogance,selfishness,hatred or apathy then I don't think you were being rude at all. This doesn't change the fact that you are being perceived as rude. People simply cannot tell your motive without getting to know you on a personal level beforehand. I agonize endlessly over maybe having done something that will be misunderstood as rudness or unkindness. Coward? This is a though one to admit. I hate and despise it but it is a truth I had to face. Even if your personality is an introvert,you should be able to forcibly tolerate discomforting situations. Avoiding them is acting out of fear (of awkward situations,discomfort,etc..). It is a personality fault. I have been trying to self-reflect and find the root cause of this behavior. I was much more tolerant towards it when I was younger but I am now starting to see all the things I missed out on (personally and professionally) as a result of introvertism and social anxieties. I hope you find an answer that helps.