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I have never be able to make [close] friends, especially same-sex friends. It bothered me when I was younger, but not much anymore (I'm 35 now). I get enough so

by Yaggo 9y ago

I have never be able to make [close] friends, especially same-sex friends. It bothered me when I was younger, but not much anymore (I'm 35 now). I get enough social interaction at work, my spouse is very close friend of mine, and kids and hobbies keep me busy. Only on occasions like wedding, name giving parties etc. having no friends bothers me little but I've three siblings. It's interesting that the recommendation to make friends in hobbies haven't worked for me neither. I guess there's something in my personality which makes it hard, regardless of the situation. It's relatively easy for me to get along with people, but really difficult to convert the relationship from acquaintance to true friendship.

KozmoNau7 9y ago
It took a long time for me as well. Kickboxing/crossfit didn't work. Volunteering at a local historic motor racing event every summer since 2010 didn't work (I like the guys, but they're acquaintances, not friends). It wasn't until I got hardcore into going to metal/rock concerts and festivals, and got into pen'n'paper roleplaying that it finally clicked for me, and I started making friends again.
heedlessly2 9y ago
>I have never be able to make [close] friends, especially same-sex friends I hear this a lot from women and their inability to make friends with other women. More commonly, most of their males friends were just "hovering" around them as nice guys hoping to eventually score a chance with them. But when these token women try making friends with the same gender, those other women are naturally less attentive because they don't have the same romantic inclination as those "nice guys"