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Friends are important in a different way, but one of the qualities they don't often share with flights is that they get you somewhere where it's important you'l

by trts 9y ago

Friends are important in a different way, but one of the qualities they don't often share with flights is that they get you somewhere where it's important you'll be at a specific time and place in pursuit of your material needs or obligations. Or rather you're not expecting something out of them other than their company, which you still get to enjoy later (if you're really friends, and if not, then you're just not). It's good that friends aren't like that. I'm happy to acknowledge that someone may have a family or other circumstance that is more pressing than a ruminative chat, and not count it against them. And I expect they will give me the same consideration. The score doesn't get kept the same way.

maccard 9y ago
If someone is always 30 minutes late and there’s always an excuse that it’s not their fault, the they’re the problem. Everyone has problems. If you tell me “hey I’m running 30 minutes late, because I had to take a shower” the odd time (in advance) that’s totally fine. But to leave me sitting on my own (when I could have plans with someone else later, or could have stopped whatever I was doing before to be on time to meet you) is just selfish and inconsiderate. If you can’t show up at 5, don’t say you’ll be there at 5, say you’ll be there at 7 so at least I can use the time too.
- JimboOmega 9y ago
  My friends (one in particular) and I basically don't make plans where one person is going to be sitting around on their own. For instance, we plan to meet up at somebody's house first (they obviously are going to be there, even if they're still getting ready). Or cases we both exchange texts and actually leave only when we are both ready to go. The trick is to take all the variables and planning (and potential for bad planning) out of the equation. Everyone is happier that way.

by trts 9y ago

maccard 9y ago

If someone is always 30 minutes late and there’s always an excuse that it’s not their fault, the they’re the problem. Everyone has problems. If you tell me “hey I’m running 30 minutes late, because I had to take a shower” the odd time (in advance) that’s totally fine. But to leave me sitting on my own (when I could have plans with someone else later, or could have stopped whatever I was doing before to be on time to meet you) is just selfish and inconsiderate. If you can’t show up at 5, don’t say you’ll be there at 5, say you’ll be there at 7 so at least I can use the time too.

JimboOmega 9y ago
My friends (one in particular) and I basically don't make plans where one person is going to be sitting around on their own. For instance, we plan to meet up at somebody's house first (they obviously are going to be there, even if they're still getting ready). Or cases we both exchange texts and actually leave only when we are both ready to go. The trick is to take all the variables and planning (and potential for bad planning) out of the equation. Everyone is happier that way.