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I agree with everything you wrote except that you seem to be implying this is a male thing, when it is equally common for a woman to drop her friends once she i
by rpiguy 9y ago
I agree with everything you wrote except that you seem to be implying this is a male thing, when it is equally common for a woman to drop her friends once she is in a stable relationship and to become dependent on her partner for all social interaction (the suddenly codependent girlfriend is something almost all men experience at some point when dating). Later in life it sometimes manifests as an obsession with ones children at the expense of everything else. Suddenly all conversations are about the kids, etc. The phenomenon definitely applies equally to men and women.
- newfoundglory 9y agoIt is not at all equally common, it is a known health risk for men that they are likely to have less social support than women, and it is one of the contributors to the very elevated mortality risk of becoming a widower compared to becoming a widow. Here’s a reference to a few older studies if you like - https://books.google.com/books?id=J3-78PdF83kC&pg=PA201&lpg=PA201&dq=new+england+research+institute+men+women+friends&source=bl&ots=7Hs1glD2QR&sig=t45wbceVcKo8k9zvozOTJUTcPXg&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwirlru7r7bZAhUIwmMKHU6yCvQQ6AEwBHoECAMQAQ#v=onepage&q&f=false https://books.google.com/books?id=J3-78PdF83kC&pg=PA201&lpg=...
- rpiguy 9y agoSocial support and codependency are two different things. A codependent person will transfer their dependency to someone else. I was pointing out that codependent women drop their female friends just like some married men do.