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As someone who regularly is late, I disagree. It's all a matter of consequences. I'm never late for a flight because I know it will cost me money. But I run

As someone who regularly is late, I disagree. It's all a matter of consequences. I'm never late for a flight because I know it will cost me money. But I run late to work often because I know it the worse I'll get is some jokes. Unless I miss an important meeting, and then I make effort to be on time for. Fashionably late only makes sense if the others can continue without you. * 2 hours late to happy hour? glad you can make it, get a drink. (But don't expect me to stay another 2 hours) * An hour late for D&D game? I guess we can start now. grumble-grumble wasted an hour of everyone elses time. * 15 minutes late to carpool? You better have a good reason.

keithnoizu 9y ago
I've managed to be late for a flight more than once. You have to commit to the absent mindedness.
amygdyl 9y ago
It's far beyond that, when it comes to navigating social interactions, once you let things decline, though. I had a rotten time on my early thirties. For various reasons I was undergoing a major shakeup of my self perception. My confidence didn't erode, it just imagined that it was running in thin air, Will E. Coyote style, looked down at the impressively abyssal canyon which definitely wasn't below my feet, and obeyed cartoon gravity. (The kind that shows the emptiness stretching forever below, but somehow dashes you against every promontory and boulder on your way down.) So I was late for the pre movie drink and greeting my friends new partners, and somehow I couldn't understand why I was slowing down, despite I was certain that I maintained my walking speed. V
carlmr 9y ago
> I'm never late for a flight because I know it will cost me money. You might plan a 2-3 hour buffer and only arrive 1-2h before the flight. You're still late. A 2-3h buffer is just not feasible for everything as the day only has 24h. It's very simple, if somebody is 1h late to the D&D game you start without them. I'm not sure about the game dynamics, but they can probably enter your storyline after 1h if you're creative.
- usrusr 9y ago
  > It's very simple, if somebody is 1h late to the D&D game you start without them. I'm not sure about the game dynamics, but they can probably enter your storyline after 1h if you're creative. Temporary NPCs do the stupidest things!
memebox3v 9y ago
I have also been late for a flight. And often very nearly late despite giving myself huge margins. Some people, like me, just have minds that have too much going on to keep track of. There is no dead space to organise things, its always moving, analysing roving. It just will not stfu. And so there is no breathing space to consider what is going on in the outside world. It's like trying to drive a car while eating pizza. You cant not eat pizza because its the most delicious thing in the world (thinking about stuff) but you must also drive (operate in the real world). Its bloody difficult being absent minded and we dont need you guys who have an easier time of things making us feel bad. Now your probably thinking, well I manage it, everyone else manages it. You are just lazy or self absorbed or both. No. Brains are different. I have a different brain that finds some things very difficult.

keithnoizu 9y ago

I've managed to be late for a flight more than once. You have to commit to the absent mindedness.

amygdyl 9y ago

It's far beyond that, when it comes to navigating social interactions, once you let things decline, though. I had a rotten time on my early thirties. For various reasons I was undergoing a major shakeup of my self perception. My confidence didn't erode, it just imagined that it was running in thin air, Will E. Coyote style, looked down at the impressively abyssal canyon which definitely wasn't below my feet, and obeyed cartoon gravity. (The kind that shows the emptiness stretching forever below, but somehow dashes you against every promontory and boulder on your way down.) So I was late for the pre movie drink and greeting my friends new partners, and somehow I couldn't understand why I was slowing down, despite I was certain that I maintained my walking speed. V

carlmr 9y ago

> I'm never late for a flight because I know it will cost me money. You might plan a 2-3 hour buffer and only arrive 1-2h before the flight. You're still late. A 2-3h buffer is just not feasible for everything as the day only has 24h. It's very simple, if somebody is 1h late to the D&D game you start without them. I'm not sure about the game dynamics, but they can probably enter your storyline after 1h if you're creative.

usrusr 9y ago
> It's very simple, if somebody is 1h late to the D&D game you start without them. I'm not sure about the game dynamics, but they can probably enter your storyline after 1h if you're creative. Temporary NPCs do the stupidest things!

memebox3v 9y ago

I have also been late for a flight. And often very nearly late despite giving myself huge margins. Some people, like me, just have minds that have too much going on to keep track of. There is no dead space to organise things, its always moving, analysing roving. It just will not stfu. And so there is no breathing space to consider what is going on in the outside world. It's like trying to drive a car while eating pizza. You cant not eat pizza because its the most delicious thing in the world (thinking about stuff) but you must also drive (operate in the real world). Its bloody difficult being absent minded and we dont need you guys who have an easier time of things making us feel bad. Now your probably thinking, well I manage it, everyone else manages it. You are just lazy or self absorbed or both. No. Brains are different. I have a different brain that finds some things very difficult.