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I didn't want to be the first to say it, but it does feel very inappropriate and gay to ask another straight man that I barely know to hang out one-on-one. Whi
by aianus 9y ago
I didn't want to be the first to say it, but it does feel very inappropriate and gay to ask another straight man that I barely know to hang out one-on-one.
Which means that you need to meet potential friends through and with a group which makes it a lot more difficult.
- davesque 9y agoWhy do you feel that way?
- aianus 9y agoWell, I wouldn't invite a woman I barely knew to meet with me one-on-one unless I was trying to signal sexual interest to her. So I guess my brain is somehow trying to be consistent?
- gowld 9y agoThat's a common form of homo-phobia (phobia as in fear, not as in hate). It's the attitude I see in people insecure about their own sexuality, who see a problem where there is none.
- maus42 9y agoGiving it another name ("homophobia", "insecure about their own sexuality") does not make the issue go away for the people who suffer from it. You don't magically grow more confident about your sexuality (or your whatever) by hearing that you are insecure about it. Or at least, I don't know how.
- jacob019 9y agoI can also relate to the awkwardness of asking someone to hang out one-on-one. It isn't necessarily borne out of sexual insecurity, but rather out of social awkwardness.