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Neither of those. It's the emotional burden that he imposes on my mom, making her manage his emotions because he has no other outlet.

• self_assembly 9y ago
  In your father's case it might be because he has no other emotional outlet. But as a male with a decent social life I still don't feel comfortable making my friends an emotional outlet. I'd rather not talk to them about things that are frustrating me or making me feel stressed. So my significant other still gets the brunt of that. In fact most of my male friends also don't get too deep in discussing their feelings. So it might not just be a lack of friendship, but a deeper problem which is men having a hard time discussing their emotions with others.
  • watwut 9y ago
    There is talking about being angry primary with wife and then there is not talking much except seemingly random outburst of anger or other unpleasantness. I think that parent talked about the latter, when you are annoying and mean without talking about why, but expect other people to be nice to you because you feel bad.
    • Kluny 9y ago
      > I think that parent talked about the latter, when you are annoying and mean without talking about why, but expect other people to be nice to you because you feel bad. Correct. My dad is not angry with my mom or any particular person. He just gets cranky and grumpy if my mom doesn't socialize him.
• cortesoft 9y ago
  What emotions, though? He just sounds like an angry person. I am sure dealing with that is a burden on your mom, but an angry person is going to be a burden no matter how many friends they have.
  • ianai 9y ago
    Few people are simply angry. There’s usually some strong emotional attachment to something. All emotions have a root cause. Having a way to process and ultimately let go of such negative attachments is crucial to overcoming things like chronic anger. Therapy/meds are valid options.
  • loorinm 9y ago
    That’s a pretty sad view on humanity isn’t it? When they get angry throw them in the garbage?
    • cortesoft 9y ago
      I never suggested they be thrown in the garbage. I was just saying that dealing with an angry person is a burden.
• Markoff 9y ago
  TBH seem like your mother is doing same to you, they are adults and you should not worry about these things as their child
• lr4444lr 9y ago
  My suggested antidote is involvement in civic groups. Neighborhood associations, block watch/civilian patrols, volunteer fire dept., Lion's club, Rotary club, Library board, school board, etc. These are very productive channels for adult male socializing, because they provide a healthy pretense to satisfy the masculine desire to be useful and important to the community, without ostensibly showing the need social bonds which many men might feel shows weakness.