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Yes, mid 30s, I struggle as well. I'm much better at small discrete tasks than I am at larger projects, where I often work for a few minutes, then back up and t
by rconti 9y ago
Yes, mid 30s, I struggle as well. I'm much better at small discrete tasks than I am at larger projects, where I often work for a few minutes, then back up and think about the scope of the whole project, get discouraged, get distracted, etc. I've been very successful in life but the past 6 months I've been working hard to tweak a lot of the things I don't like about myself.
Currently seeing a CBT specialist which is helping. What I like about CBT is that it gives you discrete tools to address issues rather than spending 6 months trying to get into your entire childhood and background and stuff.
Lots of great suggestions here.. unfortunately the answer is you just have to fix it yourself. But you can fix it with help; it takes the desire to do something about it, and some experimentation, and it sounds like you're ready. Best of luck.
- linkregister 9y agoHow does CBT apply to task focus and work completion? All the literature I've seen is for dealing with emotional issues (important, but not applicable to tasks IMO). I'm asking because I am interested in effective solutions, not to be an internet contrarian.
- anonlazybastard 9y agoI'm interested in an answer to this as well. Though I wouldn't be surprised if the avoidance of work is ultimately an emotional issue.
- rconti 9y agoUsually under the headers of perfectionism and anxiety. All or nothing thinking, negative thoughts, etc. Lots of people apparently hate the term 'perfectionism' but it fits quite well as the term is used in the field. Just a quick search but this link probably gives as decent insight into it as any: http://www.timeiam.org/perfectionism---the-all-or-nothing-mindset.html http://www.timeiam.org/perfectionism---the-all-or-nothing-mi...