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Probably quite a bit because this is "private". Most people don't witness these kinds of things off the internet, or run with groups who never do this outside

Probably quite a bit because this is "private". Most people don't witness these kinds of things off the internet, or run with groups who never do this outside of one-to-ones with mostly disconnected people. I don't dispute her results at all, but I can basically guarantee you that I haven't been around where a woman has said "hi" to someone and they're all "Yea, eff your mom". Only confounding factor I think comes in to play is the assumption that it's a bot, so you can say taboo/antisocial things without repute.

donkeyd 9y ago
> I haven't been around where a woman has said "hi" to someone and they're all "Yea, eff your mom" Lucky you, I recently saw this 'interaction' between a guy and a girl on the street: Guy: Hey cutie! Guy: Hey sexy! Guy: Hey girl, come over! Guy: Hey bitch, come over here. Guy: Go away you ugly bitch! The girl just kept walking and the guy turned to more profanities. This wasn't in some shitty part of town, it was at the main station of one of the nicest cities in the Netherlands. It's not just the internet where stuff like this happens.
- TaylorAlexander 9y ago
  I’ve heard that before. Guys will get aggressive if a woman ignores them. I don’t get it and it’s sketchy as hell. It shows how superficial so many guys can be - they want to sound sweet until it’s clear they’re not getting anything, and then they become aggressive. It’s always about their satisfaction - they reveal that they were not being nice in order for the woman to feel better, or they wouldn’t have turned aggressive. Obviously it should be clear that I’m not talking about all men, but I have seen this behavior on occasion before and it’s super unnerving.
  - guy98238710 9y ago
    Actually anger is a normal reaction to frustration, not to mention to the rude rejection. It shows how the society is broken. Wolves prey on the streets for trusting victims. They won't listen to polite no. People learn to just walk away quietly without saying anything polite. Wolves don't mind it, but ordinary people find such silent treatment infuriating. They respond with more rudeness back.
    - alex_duf 9y ago
      > to the rude rejection Saying "Hi cutie" isn't exactly a polite or respectful way to start a conversation. Ignoring it is frankly the most polite way to deal with it.
    - reitanqild 9y ago
      Ignoring someone in the street is not a rude rejection. Also I'd expect ordinary people to handle a rejection like that without any problems. (I'm born in Europe and spent most of my time in Europe but would expect this to be the same in North America based on the few times I've worked there.)
    - dkersten 9y ago
      > rude rejection Are you serious? There is nothing rude about it, she didn’t owe that random stranger anything and it was incredibly rude of him to make unwanted and unsolicited advancements. Yelling “cutie” and “sexy” at a stranger is incredibly rude.
    - jacobush 9y ago
      Ordinary people say - Go away you ugly bitch! Got it.
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- guy98238710 9y ago
  It's very different. The guy on the street actually wanted the girl. These people on the internet don't want anyone. They just want a victim for abuse. The annoying chatbox just gives them an excuse to vent off.
  - Double_a_92 9y ago
    How is it (sexual) abuse if you write dumb shit in a chat box? At most you are wasting their time while being rude...
    - mynameisvlad 9y ago
      Words can affect people. People can and do take that "dumb shit" personally. The age-old adage "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never break me." is nowhere near true.
TaylorAlexander 9y ago
Sure, people think it’s a bot. But what is happening in their brain that makes them so much more likely to be nasty when the chat program looks like a woman? If it’s just because they think it’s a bot, why does gender appear to be so significant?
- around_here 9y ago
  Breaking popular taboo is exciting for a lot of people when they feel they can do it without reproach. They get a rush from breaking the "rules".
- guy98238710 9y ago
  Because gender has an influence on whether they think it's a bot.

donkeyd 9y ago

> I haven't been around where a woman has said "hi" to someone and they're all "Yea, eff your mom" Lucky you, I recently saw this 'interaction' between a guy and a girl on the street: Guy: Hey cutie! Guy: Hey sexy! Guy: Hey girl, come over! Guy: Hey bitch, come over here. Guy: Go away you ugly bitch! The girl just kept walking and the guy turned to more profanities. This wasn't in some shitty part of town, it was at the main station of one of the nicest cities in the Netherlands. It's not just the internet where stuff like this happens.

TaylorAlexander 9y ago
I’ve heard that before. Guys will get aggressive if a woman ignores them. I don’t get it and it’s sketchy as hell. It shows how superficial so many guys can be - they want to sound sweet until it’s clear they’re not getting anything, and then they become aggressive. It’s always about their satisfaction - they reveal that they were not being nice in order for the woman to feel better, or they wouldn’t have turned aggressive. Obviously it should be clear that I’m not talking about all men, but I have seen this behavior on occasion before and it’s super unnerving.
- guy98238710 9y ago
  Actually anger is a normal reaction to frustration, not to mention to the rude rejection. It shows how the society is broken. Wolves prey on the streets for trusting victims. They won't listen to polite no. People learn to just walk away quietly without saying anything polite. Wolves don't mind it, but ordinary people find such silent treatment infuriating. They respond with more rudeness back.
  - alex_duf 9y ago
    > to the rude rejection Saying "Hi cutie" isn't exactly a polite or respectful way to start a conversation. Ignoring it is frankly the most polite way to deal with it.
  - reitanqild 9y ago
    Ignoring someone in the street is not a rude rejection. Also I'd expect ordinary people to handle a rejection like that without any problems. (I'm born in Europe and spent most of my time in Europe but would expect this to be the same in North America based on the few times I've worked there.)
  - dkersten 9y ago
    > rude rejection Are you serious? There is nothing rude about it, she didn’t owe that random stranger anything and it was incredibly rude of him to make unwanted and unsolicited advancements. Yelling “cutie” and “sexy” at a stranger is incredibly rude.
  - jacobush 9y ago
    Ordinary people say - Go away you ugly bitch! Got it.
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guy98238710 9y ago
It's very different. The guy on the street actually wanted the girl. These people on the internet don't want anyone. They just want a victim for abuse. The annoying chatbox just gives them an excuse to vent off.
- Double_a_92 9y ago
  How is it (sexual) abuse if you write dumb shit in a chat box? At most you are wasting their time while being rude...
  - mynameisvlad 9y ago
    Words can affect people. People can and do take that "dumb shit" personally. The age-old adage "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never break me." is nowhere near true.

TaylorAlexander 9y ago

Sure, people think it’s a bot. But what is happening in their brain that makes them so much more likely to be nasty when the chat program looks like a woman? If it’s just because they think it’s a bot, why does gender appear to be so significant?

around_here 9y ago
Breaking popular taboo is exciting for a lot of people when they feel they can do it without reproach. They get a rush from breaking the "rules".
guy98238710 9y ago
Because gender has an influence on whether they think it's a bot.