I don't want to trivialize the misogyny and sexism that shines through in the behavior you're seeing, but I think this is a big part of it. By now many users as

I don't want to trivialize the misogyny and sexism that shines through in the behavior you're seeing, but I think this is a big part of it. By now many users assume that any unsolicited message from a female is a bot, phishing, or both. Definitely becomes a problem when you're an actual person just trying to engage your users.