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Here is what I don't understand. I can write the same comment to two people and one will call me a jerk and the other praise me. So what am I? A Jerk or Righteo

Here is what I don't understand. I can write the same comment to two people and one will call me a jerk and the other praise me. So what am I? A Jerk or Righteous? From the words I wrote, barring vocal tones for context, you determined I was a jerk. You never considered things might have been lost in translation and jumped straight to judgment. But the worst part is that because I didn't live up to your standard, a standard you judged from a few words, you claim the moral high ground and lecture me. Just because you value something doesn't mean others do as well, nor does it mean its wrong to disagree because there is no shortage of diversity of thoughts on this planet, and morality is relative. However, even after all this you still haven't got to my main point. That the 500 point barrier creates an unfair advantage for you over me. That's good for you but is that good for the promotion of the best ideas, even ones you might not agree with that turn out to be right? I mean we are all wrong sometimes. But I think it's the fact that you have that power and I don't that gives you the arrogance to son me.

eropple 9y ago
> You never considered things might have been lost in translation I did. Lots of people here are ESL, and there is that persistent strain of tone-deafness you can see from ESL folks. (Many learn better; some hide behind it.) Then I went and looked at your posting history, because I am invested in this place and I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I determined, for myself, that your behavior did not merit it. But that you also weren't dumb. Which is why I responded to your post in the first place--like I said, I've been that righteous, raging internet prick, too, and it basically only hurt myself. So you could call it my good deed for the day. Right now you are, however, making me play "dumb or dishonest?"; you keep (and my inclination is to "dishonestly", if I'm being frank) conflating your opinions with your behavior, as if that I am saying you are being a jerk because I disagree with you, rather than because I think you are being a jerk. The deeper you huddle in your excuses, the harder it is to find the fortitude to own your behavior, to walk it back, and to stop. --- I didn't realize that the Unfairness of the Situation was your "main point"; it mostly seemed that I Am A Misunderstood Genius Who Everyone Is Keeping Down was your main point. But sure, I guess it's unfair that I've invested more time in the community and surpassed a (fairly low; I've had a few comments reach the 80-100 point range and you often see 500+-point submissions!) barrier that mostly serves to keep voting rings from downvote-bombing stuff. Maybe if you didn't needlessly antagonize people in so many comments, you would too surmount it? I also didn't realize "you're being a jerk and should stop" was so arrogant, but...well. I was honest with you, and I gave you some pretty constructive criticism about how to not be so upset by being downvoted (namely, just...don't be a jerk!). You've chosen not to listen to that criticism and instead try to legislate about how wrong it is. I think you're probably messing up by doing so; frankly, the lessons I learned from reforming my own online behavior made me a much better person to be around offline, too, which is a nontrivial part of why I said anything in the first place because seeing people piss down their own legs makes me a little uncomfortable. I don't intend to respond to you further now, though, as you have proven that assuming good faith of you is a waste of time.

eropple 9y ago

> You never considered things might have been lost in translation I did. Lots of people here are ESL, and there is that persistent strain of tone-deafness you can see from ESL folks. (Many learn better; some hide behind it.) Then I went and looked at your posting history, because I am invested in this place and I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I determined, for myself, that your behavior did not merit it. But that you also weren't dumb. Which is why I responded to your post in the first place--like I said, I've been that righteous, raging internet prick, too, and it basically only hurt myself. So you could call it my good deed for the day. Right now you are, however, making me play "dumb or dishonest?"; you keep (and my inclination is to "dishonestly", if I'm being frank) conflating your opinions with your behavior, as if that I am saying you are being a jerk because I disagree with you, rather than because I think you are being a jerk. The deeper you huddle in your excuses, the harder it is to find the fortitude to own your behavior, to walk it back, and to stop. --- I didn't realize that the Unfairness of the Situation was your "main point"; it mostly seemed that I Am A Misunderstood Genius Who Everyone Is Keeping Down was your main point. But sure, I guess it's unfair that I've invested more time in the community and surpassed a (fairly low; I've had a few comments reach the 80-100 point range and you often see 500+-point submissions!) barrier that mostly serves to keep voting rings from downvote-bombing stuff. Maybe if you didn't needlessly antagonize people in so many comments, you would too surmount it? I also didn't realize "you're being a jerk and should stop" was so arrogant, but...well. I was honest with you, and I gave you some pretty constructive criticism about how to not be so upset by being downvoted (namely, just...don't be a jerk!). You've chosen not to listen to that criticism and instead try to legislate about how wrong it is. I think you're probably messing up by doing so; frankly, the lessons I learned from reforming my own online behavior made me a much better person to be around offline, too, which is a nontrivial part of why I said anything in the first place because seeing people piss down their own legs makes me a little uncomfortable. I don't intend to respond to you further now, though, as you have proven that assuming good faith of you is a waste of time.