4 ms·

I agree with everything you said, but wanted to add some more. Boys behave differently than girls do. Boys need much more rough and tumble play time. These d

I agree with everything you said, but wanted to add some more. Boys behave differently than girls do. Boys need much more rough and tumble play time. These days that's going to result in a call to the police. Not to mention behavior is now a part of your grade, so normal, healthy boy behavior is penalized. Boys tend to perform better on tests but relatively poorly on homework compared to girls. Grading emphasis has been tilted towards the benefit of girls here. I want to be clear that I'm not advocating re-masculinizing education. It seems obvious to me that the maximal benefit to society would be a system in which everyone reaches their maximum potential. There must be a third path where boys are still encouraged to be properly socialized while simultaneously not penalized for being boys, and we must be able to do that without harming girls.

elboru 9y ago
Totally agree, some boys (like myself some years ago) learn that they must behave in certain ways, they learn that rough playing is not how a "good boy" behaves, so they are raised believing that they shouldn't be too "rough" in order to be accepted, you should not rise your voice, you should always listen, you must be nice all the time, then you grow up and have a difficult time socializing in high school, then you think how unfair is the world, why the "bad guys" get all the attention even from teachers who are supposed to repeal those behaviors, then you spend your twenties fighting those nice guy impulses, until you learn that you shouldn't care that much, and stop thinking too much about it, then you learn to just be yourself, and start putting yourself first, it takes a long time to realize this stuff by oneself.