You misread what I wrote. Making a perpetrator of bad behavior recognize the pain their actions might have caused is different. I'm more talking about telling s

You misread what I wrote. Making a perpetrator of bad behavior recognize the pain their actions might have caused is different. I'm more talking about telling someone who was on the receiving end what others interpret as bad behavior not feeling like they were victims. I don't feel comfortable trying to convince someone they were a victim if they don't feel victimized, and I feel even less comfortable telling them they were victimized if they felt empowered by their experience.