This book seems to strike a tone of unobtrusive enablement much like what I received I think this works because of the unobtrusive part. Obtrusive enablement,

This book seems to strike a tone of unobtrusive enablement much like what I received I think this works because of the unobtrusive part. Obtrusive enablement, or the protection from natural consequences, can stunt growth just as much as over-parenting. You definitely want to protect your kids from mistakes that can end with them in jail or dead, but letting them skin their knees or suffer the consequences of being rude to peers allows them to feel the weight of their autonomy.