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"taking care of young kids is boring as hell." There were articles about how couples with children are unhappier over here recently: http://news.ycombinator.c

"taking care of young kids is boring as hell." There were articles about how couples with children are unhappier over here recently: http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1494011 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1494011 Yet I believe I'd be unhappy in my old age if I don't have children (not to mention several good points in that discussion). I keep going back to the "experiencing self vs remembering self" talk many people here directed me to: http://sheshtawy.wordpress.com/2010/03/01/experience-self-vs-remembering-self-experience-vs-memory/ http://sheshtawy.wordpress.com/2010/03/01/experience-self-vs... The experiencing self is unhappier, but the remembering self is definitely happier :)

bambax 16y ago
Like I said, I'm a very happy father (my kids are 5, 2 and 1). I love them (they helped me understand what "love" actually means). They are the joy of my life. But spending too much time with them is not as fulfilling as actually doing something -- or even reading a good book. There is no fulfillment in wiping a child's ass, or even feeding them. You do it because you have to, and I actually don't mind doing it. But as useful as it is for them, it's pointless for me. That is not a problem as long as I have other things to do / to care about; it would be if they were the beginning and end of my day.