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You try that, I'll try the other way and we'll see whose baby gets into Harvard!

titanix2 9y ago
That does not takes the genetic lottery into account.
JoeAltmaier 9y ago
My three Eagle Scouts are respectively a Sargeant, an Engineer and a Musician. The Engineer went to CMU and works at a startup in Redwood City. The Sargent did his tour of Iraq in transportation (doing vehicle recovery) and returned a little busted up; now has a MechE degree and is a process Engineer. The Musician studied at Cleveland Institute, but turned to the dark side and now works IT.
- opwieurposiu 9y ago
  Great work dad!
toomanybeersies 9y ago
My brothers and I were brought up in much the same way. However, we have not all ended up in the same place. One of my brothers managed to spend over half a decade in and out of odd jobs, spending all his money on drugs (thank fuck none of the hard stuff). Me and my other brother have managed to carve out a good life for ourselves, at least by society's external measure. People will go their own direction in life. You can prod them and help them on their journey, but you can't fundamentally change who they are.
- cm2012 9y ago
  On a tangent, the ability to delay reward is largely determined by the time you are 5ish years old, but unlike height and IQ, people don't think of it that way. See the Marshmallow experiment, which has been succesfully replicated a few times. It is a big reason why life is unfair.
unit91 9y ago
You've assumed that Harvard is, or should be, the goal of healthy parenting. If you have kids, stop doing this to them. You're their father/mother. Love, nurture, train, and instruct them to be good people. If they go to Harvard, good for them. If not, Harvard be damned, they're your kids. If you don't have kids yet, mature before you do.
- tartuffe78 9y ago
  My comment was meant as a joke, I needed the /s tag I guess. I've got a 3 month old, and we went through the experience of reading the very contradictory child raising books. We're not going to try to manipulate our kids every moment or be tiger parents.
  - mcv 9y ago
    I guess it's a dangerous thing to joke about. Some parents really to try to push their children to what the parents want them to become. On the other hand, my son aspires to become a lazy couch potato and gamer. He's actually quite successful on that front, but I admit I was hoping for something more.

That does not takes the genetic lottery into account.

My three Eagle Scouts are respectively a Sargeant, an Engineer and a Musician. The Engineer went to CMU and works at a startup in Redwood City. The Sargent did his tour of Iraq in transportation (doing vehicle recovery) and returned a little busted up; now has a MechE degree and is a process Engineer. The Musician studied at Cleveland Institute, but turned to the dark side and now works IT.

opwieurposiu 9y ago
Great work dad!

toomanybeersies 9y ago

My brothers and I were brought up in much the same way. However, we have not all ended up in the same place. One of my brothers managed to spend over half a decade in and out of odd jobs, spending all his money on drugs (thank fuck none of the hard stuff). Me and my other brother have managed to carve out a good life for ourselves, at least by society's external measure. People will go their own direction in life. You can prod them and help them on their journey, but you can't fundamentally change who they are.

cm2012 9y ago
On a tangent, the ability to delay reward is largely determined by the time you are 5ish years old, but unlike height and IQ, people don't think of it that way. See the Marshmallow experiment, which has been succesfully replicated a few times. It is a big reason why life is unfair.

unit91 9y ago

You've assumed that Harvard is, or should be, the goal of healthy parenting. If you have kids, stop doing this to them. You're their father/mother. Love, nurture, train, and instruct them to be good people. If they go to Harvard, good for them. If not, Harvard be damned, they're your kids. If you don't have kids yet, mature before you do.

tartuffe78 9y ago
My comment was meant as a joke, I needed the /s tag I guess. I've got a 3 month old, and we went through the experience of reading the very contradictory child raising books. We're not going to try to manipulate our kids every moment or be tiger parents.
- mcv 9y ago
  I guess it's a dangerous thing to joke about. Some parents really to try to push their children to what the parents want them to become. On the other hand, my son aspires to become a lazy couch potato and gamer. He's actually quite successful on that front, but I admit I was hoping for something more.