What is more wrong - a parent physically abusing their child when they feel like it (bear in mind the parent is also taking care of said child)? a parent boun

What is more wrong - a parent physically abusing their child when they feel like it (bear in mind the parent is also taking care of said child)? a parent bound by society reduced to moaning at their child (think kids under 10) hoping to control them? I know which is more perverse.