I agree with you, and I think your experience is more typical than you may think. It's a chore because you often get zero positive validation out of it (ghosti

I agree with you, and I think your experience is more typical than you may think. It's a chore because you often get zero positive validation out of it (ghosting, relationships that go nowhere, blah blah)... You begin to not want to "play the game" which is what I'm reading from your post and I very much relate if that's the case.