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> But I think working in tech makes it harder for men Obviously anecdotal - but yea. I'm an engineer in America and for the entirety of my career I have worked
by folkhack 9y ago
> But I think working in tech makes it harder for men
Obviously anecdotal - but yea. I'm an engineer in America and for the entirety of my career I have worked with 95%+ men. In my office right now it's 25 men and one woman who is non-technical.
I simply just don't interact with women unless it's professional, within mutual friend groups, at the bar, or in the dating scene. I won't initiate in polite small-talk conversations out of fear my friendliness could be misconstrued as flirting, and as a single 30-something guy I'm terrified of making someone feel uncomfortable.
This all leads to a lack of confidence in non-professional interactions to the point where I am legitimately shocked/concerned when a woman randomly initiates conversation with me (as seldom as that happens).
- brad0 9y agoI feel you. I'm 31 and am exactly the same way with women. It's lead to the exact same conclusions as you - a lack of self confidence in a wide variety of situations. This turns into overcompensation and having bad interactions. That all reinforces the lack of self confidence.