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Careers And Marriage

2 points by chegra 16y ago

markstansbury 16y ago
So a woman with a college degree who earns $30,000 per year or more ("Career Woman") is more likely to divorce you, cheat on you, or express displeasure at the thought of having children. Wow. Compelling research. But isn't $30,000 a bit low to lump into the "Career Woman" category? Do you think these studies controlled for the (obvious?) fact that women below this already-low bar are either 1) trophy wives happy to play their part or 2) going to get punched right in the mouth for any sort of dissent? I grew up around both types and neither got divorced. Most miserable people I knew. In other news: Stressed people often find it difficult to get along with others, while people at the spa do not.
- tptacek 16y ago
  There it is. Also: this "research" is irrelevant; the one-income, stay-at-home parent model is probably dead forever. Throughout much of the middle class, a single income simply isn't viable. Which, from a social science perspective, makes you wonder about any statistics they may home come up with: did they control for all the other socio/econo/cultural stuff that's conflated with this? A single income is more likely to be viable in rural areas, where competition, social mores, and lack of mobility disadvantage divorce inherently.
euroclydon 16y ago
I am married to a stay at home wife. We have two boys, ages 4 and 5. It takes a lot of effort to keep the environment stable and happy at home. Living on one income, we can't afford to live in a good school district or pay private school tuition. So, we're looking at either having her go back to work, or homeschooling. We might get lucky, and I'll make enough money as a consultant to move to a nice neighborhood (or farm) AND homeschool the kids -- that would be ideal. Homeschooling can be a really neat option, if you're willing to make it interesting for the kids, by taking time off to travel, hiring tutors, or involving them in a business like a niche farm.
- markstansbury 16y ago
  My mom home-schooled my little sister and it was wonderful. My sis left grade school below average on all standardized tests. She was home-schooled for a few years. I'm pretty sure she only did about two or three hours of school work per day--but my mom does all sorts of "field trip" type stuff so there were plenty of learning opportunities outdoors. Anyway, sis went back to school and smoked the tests. She just graduated from undergrad as the top student in all of the sciences and 2nd highest grades in the university. Bam!

2 points by chegra 16y ago

So a woman with a college degree who earns $30,000 per year or more ("Career Woman") is more likely to divorce you, cheat on you, or express displeasure at the thought of having children. Wow. Compelling research. But isn't $30,000 a bit low to lump into the "Career Woman" category? Do you think these studies controlled for the (obvious?) fact that women below this already-low bar are either 1) trophy wives happy to play their part or 2) going to get punched right in the mouth for any sort of dissent? I grew up around both types and neither got divorced. Most miserable people I knew. In other news: Stressed people often find it difficult to get along with others, while people at the spa do not.

tptacek 16y ago
There it is. Also: this "research" is irrelevant; the one-income, stay-at-home parent model is probably dead forever. Throughout much of the middle class, a single income simply isn't viable. Which, from a social science perspective, makes you wonder about any statistics they may home come up with: did they control for all the other socio/econo/cultural stuff that's conflated with this? A single income is more likely to be viable in rural areas, where competition, social mores, and lack of mobility disadvantage divorce inherently.

euroclydon 16y ago

I am married to a stay at home wife. We have two boys, ages 4 and 5. It takes a lot of effort to keep the environment stable and happy at home. Living on one income, we can't afford to live in a good school district or pay private school tuition. So, we're looking at either having her go back to work, or homeschooling. We might get lucky, and I'll make enough money as a consultant to move to a nice neighborhood (or farm) AND homeschool the kids -- that would be ideal. Homeschooling can be a really neat option, if you're willing to make it interesting for the kids, by taking time off to travel, hiring tutors, or involving them in a business like a niche farm.

markstansbury 16y ago
My mom home-schooled my little sister and it was wonderful. My sis left grade school below average on all standardized tests. She was home-schooled for a few years. I'm pretty sure she only did about two or three hours of school work per day--but my mom does all sorts of "field trip" type stuff so there were plenty of learning opportunities outdoors. Anyway, sis went back to school and smoked the tests. She just graduated from undergrad as the top student in all of the sciences and 2nd highest grades in the university. Bam!