I don't agree with this. You don't have as much control over yourself as you think you do. Your genes and your environment play a huge role on how you act and b

I don't agree with this. You don't have as much control over yourself as you think you do. Your genes and your environment play a huge role on how you act and behave. Of course I am not saying that you shouldn't take responsibility for your actions--you should. You should see where you went wrong and try your best so that it doesn't happen again. If you observe your emotions closely, you might find that berating yourself is often a way to 'feel good' (oh look how self aware I am, how virtuous I am for recognizing my mistakes) without actually accomplishing anything. And research backs this up. People who berate themselves over mistakes are less likely to implement behavioural changes. It is inevitable that you'll make mistakes. You'll make mistakes everyday. So it is best to accept this and get over yourself--to focus on improving yourself. I like to think of it as treating yourself as you would your best friend. If your best friend makes a mistake you wouldn't berate him, nor would you encourage him to keep making the same mistakes. You would instead, with compassion and respect try to help him out. Disclaimer: this post might sound kind of righteous and condescending. But that's not my intention. This is based on my experience with my own self. YMMV