I guess this situation will only permanently change if all fathers are completely and truly happy and comfortable with doing exactly the same amount of house wo

I guess this situation will only permanently change if all fathers are completely and truly happy and comfortable with doing exactly the same amount of house work and childcare work as the mothers of their children. As long as the idea of the men as the bigger breadwinner still lingers around for the average parent and boss (consciously or unconsciously, on an individual basis and culturally), it'll impact the decisions being made which then in turn lead to children being bigger career killers for working moms than for fathers. If that assumption is correct, then the actual question would be: Will this 50/50 (on average) state with truly happy and comfortable fathers ever happen, and will parents (on average) be happier or not? (this sounds like me questioning that they might be, but it's meant as an actual question). Personally, I am actually quite happy that I don't have specific plans to become a father right now, because truth be told, I wouldn't want to give up so much of my work/passion for taking care of a child (although maybe me saying this is more the consequence of lacking the desire to become a father, meaning that I'd speak differently if that desire would exist).