Forget about it. You aren't looking for a business partner or advisor, you're looking for a spouse with whom you will have children and a life forever. I am m

Forget about it. You aren't looking for a business partner or advisor, you're looking for a spouse with whom you will have children and a life forever. I am married to a programmer (and am one myself) so you might think that we are always talking about it, but we have different focuses and sometimes feel like we are speaking different languages. When we do talk about work, it is usually just in what happened and how we dealt with our co-workers, not specifics of how we technically implemented something. It's rare that we'll ask each other for technical advice or have a deeply technical discussion, although it does happen. And now that we have a child, 90% of our conversations are about him, or our parents, or our friends (usually with kids too) or our house. Trust me: the tech startup scene might seem like your whole world right now, but that shifts completely once you have kids.