I understand the need to use some martial metaphor but not everybody is born to see through that lens. The friends I have lost to cancer did not loose a battle.

I understand the need to use some martial metaphor but not everybody is born to see through that lens. The friends I have lost to cancer did not loose a battle. They were strong, they did everything they could, they had a "grandeur d'être" that inspires me until today. But sure, they didn't fail/loose the battle. They were just unfortunate. And their ghosts are still with me.