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You have to start somewhere. If you start saying it won't work, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, if you start something not too unreasonable

by panta 9y ago

You have to start somewhere. If you start saying it won't work, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, if you start something not too unreasonable saying that you can do it, it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy too, but a positive one. Being positive and optimist is free, and can go a long way... (of course you need to put in also some work, but not necessarily an extenuating amount).

hestipod 9y ago
Thanks and I know your words come from a well meaning place...but this is how it always goes because there isn't a self made path out of this sort of situation but people need to believe there is. You HAVE to have lots of outside help and 100% of the people I have known or see like me who did get a life back had that support. People don't accept the actual limits and hear what I am saying and talk about optimism and prophecies because those things SOUND right to us but it's not real life. It's factual, logistical, and reality I am up against. I'd never turn down a practical and realistic plan ti regain a life...I've never had access to one. If I had what my friend had that would be different. Here my only chance is an individual or company CHOOSING to help me and that doesn't happen in this culture. It's so much easier for people in general to blame victims and stay safe in the "knowledge" that they would find a way out if it were them...I used to say the same so I know it's not something people will listen to until they live it. I know how I sound but I also the depression and mental stuff is a result of the lack of Maslow's lower levels not being met and you can't cure things "backwards". I need stability and a legit path and the rest would follow...but I am expected by most to somehow fix the effect before dealing with the cause. I find the more I talk about it the more depressed I get...which is ironic to me...but the alternative to let it pile up doesn't chance things either. I wish I could see a way out...

by panta 9y ago

hestipod 9y ago

Thanks and I know your words come from a well meaning place...but this is how it always goes because there isn't a self made path out of this sort of situation but people need to believe there is. You HAVE to have lots of outside help and 100% of the people I have known or see like me who did get a life back had that support. People don't accept the actual limits and hear what I am saying and talk about optimism and prophecies because those things SOUND right to us but it's not real life. It's factual, logistical, and reality I am up against. I'd never turn down a practical and realistic plan ti regain a life...I've never had access to one. If I had what my friend had that would be different. Here my only chance is an individual or company CHOOSING to help me and that doesn't happen in this culture. It's so much easier for people in general to blame victims and stay safe in the "knowledge" that they would find a way out if it were them...I used to say the same so I know it's not something people will listen to until they live it. I know how I sound but I also the depression and mental stuff is a result of the lack of Maslow's lower levels not being met and you can't cure things "backwards". I need stability and a legit path and the rest would follow...but I am expected by most to somehow fix the effect before dealing with the cause. I find the more I talk about it the more depressed I get...which is ironic to me...but the alternative to let it pile up doesn't chance things either. I wish I could see a way out...