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I understood it to mean that a boy child would be doubly thrilled getting to do things that his dad does. Though I'm not sure it's as clearly true in my experie
by 7Z7 9y ago
I understood it to mean that a boy child would be doubly thrilled getting to do things that his dad does. Though I'm not sure it's as clearly true in my experience (daddy's girl/mammy's boy, and all that).
- Guthur 9y agoThere is evidence that it's generally phased. First years dominated by the maternal care with the paternal side increasing in later years.
- jacobolus 9y agoYou mean, the structure of our society/culture is such that women (on average) do more childcare, especially of very young children? As far as I can tell there’s no biological predestination involved there though. Sure, kids are comforted by breastfeeding (frequent food + cuddles is strong positive reinforcement) and often get attached to it and by extension to hugs with mom, but there’s no reason that fathers can’t have similar types of rewards that reinforce close bonding.
- devmunchies 9y agohttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casomorphin https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casomorphin Children are quite literally addicted to mom early on. Its much more biological than simple "positive reinforcement". Nature won't leave the survival of a child to chance, or it at least tries to tilt the odds.
- jacobolus 9y agoOkay fine, but is there evidence that other caretakers can’t form similar bonds that birth mothers might form by age 3 or whatever? Many children grow up in adoptive houses, or are largely taken care of by someone other than their birth mother, and go on to have entirely normal productive lives. The poster I was responding to seemed to be making a more expansive claim but it was hard to really tell, so I was trying to figure out exactly what he meant.
- watwut 9y agoYes, that is how I meant it. My kids were strongly like that, especially when small.
- jschwartzi 9y agoDoes weight training with mom make you a momma's boy?