So your position is that with kids at home, you can't be doing things that cause you to be unavailable/unreachable for durations of time longer than some thresh

So your position is that with kids at home, you can't be doing things that cause you to be unavailable/unreachable for durations of time longer than some threshold. Nothing wrong with that. The kinds of recreational events that conflict with that restriction are generally easy to spot ahead of time, and no one's compelling you to participate in them.